Biblical approach dating

Chanel is a Biola University alumna with a degree in English, psychology, and a minor in biblical studies.

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It's another thing to sabotage what might otherwise be sexually pure, healthy, male-female relationships with an inordinately long list of do's and don'ts.

(I touched on this subject in another Her.meneutics post.) Yet the Christian conversation about dating is making a turn for the better, if a new website and Christian college event are any indication. IKDH dubs itself as a place for "A (Somewhat Irreverent) Conversation Between The Sexes about The Trials And Tribulations Of Christian Dating." Obviously the name is a tongue-in-cheek nod to the title of Joshua Harris's best-selling .

Two friends, Chanel Graham and Sarah Roorda, met in New York City and launched the site in 2009 after a coffee-shop conversation.

I work with Christian college students who are in the throes of dating or of wanting to be dating.

Nearly every week during the school year, I am asked questions (mostly by ladies) about the ins-and-outs of the dating process.

Questions like, "What's the biblical model for dating? " and, "Do you believe there is one person out there for me? Yet when it comes to directing them to resources about relationships, often I'm uncomfortable recommending many of the Christian resources available.

While no doubt the purveyors of these resources mean well, I find that many of the resources lack significant social and theological acuity.

Rules and regulations (mostly geared toward women) like, "Do not call or text him," "Never ask a guy out, let him pursue you, let him initiate," "Do not pray together," and "Only go on group dates" are often touted as inviolable and sacrosanct, as if they are dating principles derivable straight from the Bible.

Really, most are cultural preferences, and are often one-sided and narrow in their approach.

We need a greater vision—a more holistic way of thinking and speaking that contextualizes these admonitions.

For example, I believe we have conflated a unilateral campaign for sexual abstinence with deep, robust theological reflection on human relationships and sexuality.

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